Giving Up – Writing Isn’t An Option

Giving Up – Writing Isn’t An Option

By Rebecca Besser


Over the last year or so, I’ve seen posts on social media where many writers I know have been down and have questioned whether they should give up writing. This has mostly come about because of low sales and feeling like they have a lack of fans.

At some point, I think even highly successful writers have wanted to give up – we’ve all heard stories about how Stephen King and other now popular authors had a lot of rejection early on in their careers. So, in actuality, it truly does happen to the best of us. We all have doubt when we try hard and it doesn’t look like we’re gaining anything. That’s simply human nature. We want to be recognized for our hard work, for pouring our souls out to the masses. We want all that time we took from our families and all the effort we put into making our work presentable to mean something. We want acknowledgement that most likely will never come.

After all, writing is easy, isn’t it? Everyone’s going to just write a book someday, right? (Yeah, I hate people who say stuff like that to me. They obviously know nothing about what it takes to actually write a book.)

What most people (who aren’t writers) don’t realize is that if you’re truly a writer giving up is never a real option. And people don’t just become writers one day because they decide to. Writers who are meant to be writers can’t help but write and they can’t give up. Writing is part of who they are. They’re happier when they’re writing than when their doing almost anything else. It goes the same for musicians, painters, and any other type of artist. The need to create, to express themselves through some medium isn’t just about how much their fans love them, it’s about being who they are inside.

Yes, all artists want their work to be appreciated. They all want fans and dream of success. But life doesn’t always work that way.

To be happy as a writer (or any other form of artist) you have to come to some kind of understanding with your inner self. Because you have to know where your creativity comes from and know that not everyone will see and understand what you create takes out of you.

You have to find acceptance and peace within yourself.

Once you do that, you won’t let your value be controlled by other people or sales, or anything else beyond your control. At that point, you can set personal goals for yourself and find success in the things you can control. Feed your goals and your inner self because writing starts with you. After that, it’s all a game of chance.


©Rebecca Besser, 2016. All rights reserved.

9 thoughts on “Giving Up – Writing Isn’t An Option”

  1. Well said!
    I’ve been writing for fifteen years or so, and I’ve left it behind for years at a stretch on ocassion but always come back to it. Writing is my guitar, or paintbrush.
    I think people get disillusioned with it because success is so hard to attain in writing, maybe because everyone writes or can write, but there aren’t that many people statistically, who are trying to forge a career out of it. If people are passionate enough they’ll persevere.

    1. Thank you!

      I wrote a follow up post for tomorrow about Personal VS Professional writing. I want people know the difference.

      I’m trying to make it more clear what I mean by not placing one’s worth on book sales. I don’t mean that writers shouldn’t expect to be paid and get paid for their skill, etc. All artists should get paid for their work.

  2. Great post! So true, ultimately if you really love what you are doing, you won’t give up because you are not fuelled by results, you are fuelled by doing something you love. It’s internal not external motivation. Thanks for sharing and all the best!

    1. I agree. It’s too bad human nature doesn’t always agree with what we know. Emotions are tricky things and writers get discouraged. I’m happy to say that I don’t know of any of the writers who I’ve seen post about this actually quit writing.

      Thanks for commenting. 🙂

  3. I had those same thoughts about giving up for some of the same reasons too. then i realized i enjoy this too much to quit and ive stayed with it. I feel now that im doing it for the love of storytelling Ive gotten better then when i was doing it to impress people.

    1. Sometimes all that needs to change to make us happy as a writer again is a change in how we think about it. That’s why I wrote this post, to hopefully help people think about things a little differently and stick with it.

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